@aurelia akkoma, gotosocial or snac2
akkoma for maximum compatibility
gotosocial for being a rock of a software
and snac2 for hosting on the smallest of potatoes
iceshrimp dot net is a maybe one day recommended, but also, dot net paaainn
don't think i can recommend any of the node based softwares, the language itself is really too unstable for this sort of thing in my opinion
anyway, i suppose that's just the technical point of view, but, what's the difference between fedi servers otherwise :cirno_shrug: